When I was growing up in a Canadian city that was predominantly white during those days, elders in my family would tell me that I needed to work harder than my white friends and get better grades than them to have an equal chance in the job market as them. “If you and Sarah both go for the same job and have the same grades, she would get the job,” an elder would explain, “the only way you would get the job is if you have better grades than her.” “Why is that?” I would innocently ask. “Because she is white and you are not,” came the reply.
This is 1990s that I speak of. Not so long ago. I was consistently made aware of my skin color by family members because of the prejudices they suffered. They didn’t want their children to go through the same injustices that they did.
They didn’t want their children to be told to ‘go back where they came from‘. I, on the other hand, happily unaware of their realities didn’t think that it would ever happen. Not anymore at least. How could Rick and Sarah (my closest friends at the time) be any different than me? We enjoyed the same books, shared the same jokes, had similar interests … how were we different? I didn’t want to see any difference because there was none. I didn’t want to accept that I was not like them. Skin color did not count as a difference, I was certain. That’s what schools taught us. Racism was a thing of the past. Elders were just being delusional or at least that’s what I thought until the day when my cousin of maybe 5 came running to me in the playground I’d taken him to and said, “Roo Di, that boy there doesn’t let me play on the swings. He told me to ‘go back where I came from‘.”I stood there. Frozen. This was in Summer 2004. I clearly remember. With a 5 year old tugging on to my hand not knowing what he had just done to me, I saw my world collapse for a brief moment. Like in Bollywood films, my times with Rick and Sarah in school and white friends in uni and white friends at the time flashed before my eyes. I couldn’t have imagined any one of them saying any such thing to me. And here he was … a little white boy … barely maybe 10 … in a relatively upscale neighborhood … telling my brown cousin to ‘go back where he came from‘ … not knowing that his ancestors too came from somewhere else.
Ironically, my cousin was from Vancouver (not the city I am from) and he assumed that’s where he was being told to go to. When I took him back home later that evening, he told everybody that there was some bully in the playground who told him to go back to Vancouver. I didn’t change his truth either. Neither had I bothered to go talk sense to the young lad who had offered my cousin the precious advice. I still don’t know if I should have. There was no point, I thought. It would’ve just caused unnecessary trouble especially since I hadn’t actually heard him say the words. My little cousin’s words were all I had to go with. So, I let it go. That was 2004 and now it is 2008. America is going into its Presidential Elections with a part-black candidate as one of the candidates for the first time in American history. It is most definitely a moment in history that, like so many others, I am proud to witness. Barack Obama along with his wife, Michelle Obama, proudly stands as a symbol of change … as a symbol of initiation of times when skin color shall no longer judge the value of an individual.
Despite all this positivity, the cynic in me is restless. I read on a liberal website someplace that no black man can win in USA until the white majority is ready for it, and sadly, the cynic agrees. This view can also be manipulated as that a black man can only win in America if he is a Republican party nominee. A black person as a Republican party nominee? you scoff … well, surely it seems improbable but certainly it is not impossible.
It is not long now before America elects its President. The cynic will happily admit defeat if Barack Obama wins but if John McCain is chosen as President, the biased cynic will not accredit McCain’s superiority as a candidate but solely his skin color. I am not an American citizen yet but always find myself drawn into the political mayhem here every four years. Part of the reason probably is because there is nothing interesting about Canadian politics. Everyone around the globe looks at US every four years to choose the best leader for it’s just not the destiny of America that depends on his leadership but of the entire world at some level. The stakes are high for the Republicans this time considering the unpopularity of the past 8 years but John McCain would still win. Oops did I just let that slip? I was meaning to remain unbiased in this post but seems like I can’t help but be biased. McCain will win no matter how ridiculously ill-planned his plans for the country might be. There is no reason for me to listen to what he has to say. I can watch his speeches while U2 blasts in headphones encompassing my ears. I don’t need to hear him. I can see. I can see that he is white and that’s all I care about.
Now he has chosen an ex-beauty queen, mother of five, pro-guns, anti-abortion, pro-abstinence, born again Christian, governor of a land up north somewhere that’s hidden in snow most of the year and with negligible population, Sarah Palin, who believes that climate change is not man made and that polar bears should not be put on endangered species list, as his Vice President. Media is now talking of her lack of experience in politics and especially international relations which the Republican campaign office had been accusing Obama of before Palin entered the picture. Another rumor doing the rounds of internet is that her fifth child is in fact her teen-aged unwedded daughter’s child who Sarah Palin showed the world as her own to save her daughter the disgrace. However, Palin family refuted that rumor by announcing that their daughter, Bristol (17 year old), is now 5 months pregnant and will marry the father of the baby soon. If she is 5 months pregnant, then Bristol couldn’t have given birth to the ‘fifth baby’ who was born in April. Internet rumormongers, however, claim that the Palin family is lying about the current pregnancy to hide the truth about the ‘fifth baby’ to avoid any damage to the campaign.
Point of that story is that despite ALL of that, McCain and Palin are still going to win. Simply because they are white. :) Had any of this happened to the Democrat nominee Barack Obama, the Republicans’ family values team and their moral police would’ve buried Obama and his family alive by now. In Palin’s case, all they are saying is that Sarah Palin and her family believe in the ‘family values’ and therefore, shall support Bristol’s decision to have the baby and continue their support as she marries the father of the baby. Ahem.
Perhaps I am being too cynical. Perhaps American public is intelligent enough to actually listen to what both the candidates have to say before making their decision. Perhaps it will be an election based on policies and platforms of both candidates and not their skin color or religious affiliations. Perhaps I will be proved wrong. In fact, I want to be proved wrong. Will I be proved wrong?
We’ll find out … in 2 months … 2 months before Bristol’s baby is due.
(Photo by me. I dedicate it to SidhuSaaheb and Reema who appreciated the first photo I took with the new camera) ;p





I agree. Dh and I were talking about that the other day…how I don’t think Obama will win because he is Black. I mean…I just read on the ‘net somewhere the other day where the KKK is up in arms over him possibly getting elected. If he does, then he is going to have a hard time staying alive because of people like that.
It is a shame too…all I can do is hope I can raise my children to be more open minded and that when they are grown the world might be a little better than it is now.
Are you for real? I didn’t hear of that! Man, that’s scary … and we talk of racism as a thing of the past. ha! I don’t think it can ever be a thing of the past. as human beings, we will always continue to hate anyone is not like us and, if insecure with our own selves, anyone who reminds us of who we are. How are these people any different than religious fanatics?
There is an old classic film’ look who is coming for dinner tonight’.The issue of racism has been tackled very well in that. You express yourself very well .
Thanks P!!! :) I shall order it on Netflix and let you know how it was.
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It’s quite late here and before I go to bed, I wanted to write something in response to your post. Forgive me if I didnt read it properly and jumped to conclusions..
From what I understand, the point you are trying to make is that racism in Canada/US still exists pretty much the same way as it was during a generation earlier and that Obama is not going to win because he is not 100% white..
Well, I disagree with you on both counts..Racism is such a broad and complex issue that it cannot be covered under the scope of my little comment here, but I must say that North America has come a long way in becoming a egalitarian society and racism has taken much milder forms than those days when blacks had unequal rights and people outside the region were not welcomed..as far as I see it now, North America is the most diverse and welcoming place for the outsiders..ofcourse nobody is saying that there is no racism here and everything is hunky dory.ofcourse there are issues but compared to all other countries in the west or may I say whole world, this is the only place where local people mind the least when they see somebody who is not canadian or american or not white….the reasons for that can be entirely economical to begin with, but who cares..
Second, there is still a very strong chance that Obama wins ( contest is pretty tight I would say)..and he has reached till this stage primarily because of support of many whites only..Iam sure you know that almost whole of Hollywood ( which is quite white dominated) is behind Obama..
The other thing is that it’s not necessarily that if Obama loses , it will be only because he was not white…I know none of us seem to like McCain at the moment because if he wins, it seems to challenge our hope of seeing a ‘fair minded’ colored person at the top, but there could be more delicate issues involved in the victory of mccain than just he being white…Obama may seem more erudite and dynamic, but he is not flawless especially when it comes to his views and his intended policies on handling US economy which is in deep shit right now…
So, let’s wait and see how it goes before we get so excited about his impending defeat :)
Thanks Lallu Pallu. Ok, I’ll answer point by point
1. I did not say that racism is the same now as it was let’s say 50 years ago … all I said was that it exists …. although in a much milder form … as you agreed as well. And racism is not just white people discriminating against the rest … ti’s also the colored people discriminating against white. I know of plenty Indian business owners who don’t hire white employees in Canada even TODAY.
2. Racism is in fact not a complex issue at all. It is simple. As simple as .. treat everyone the same as you would treat someone the same color as you.
3. As far as I understand, Obama surely has better policies in terms of economy in comparison to McCain undoubtedly … but of course, we can vary on that …. :)
4. I did mention that the ‘biased’ cynic in me will blame McCain’s color if he were to win …. which in turn means that it is a ‘biased’ opinion and i admit to it.
5. I don’t want Obama to win because he is colored; instead I don’t want Mccain to win because he is white …. there is a difference. :)
Hey, everytime someine talks about racism, it touches my core. I have read several on blogosphere.
I do not care much for President of US (though it does impact rest of wrld in soem way) and I may not be as well-informed as you about it. But I think Obama has a fair chance to win. MacCain has age against him too. But honestly, my mind does not see Obama a champion of brown skin. :( I have some disgareements and fears about his policy. But I ahd a question fro you out of curiosity: Do you think Obama had a fair chance to win if he were a black woman? I am sorry I used the word black, I meant African origiin.
Poonam: Good question. I don’t think it would’ve made any difference at all. Being black (it’s okay to say black … national tv says it … why shouldn’t we) is equal to being a woman in American politics. They are both equally advantaged and disadvantaged. That’s what made the Democratic primaries so exciting this time around. It would’ve absolutely made no difference if Obama was a black woman as long as she could speak like he can and she could be as presentable as he is.
Oh, and I like the idea of dedicating pictures. IT is sweet. :)
Fab! Next one is dedicated to you!! :D
A few months ago, my cousin came visiting from the US and discussion veered towards the presidential election, at lunch one afternoon.
I said I had read summaries all candidates’ ‘manifestos’ (or at least that’s what we call those here in India) and would’ve voted for Obama, if I were an American citizen. He was the first candidate to have clearly stated that he would seek to end the US misadventure in Iraq at the earliest and withdraw troops from there.
Senator McCain scared me, not only because of what he had written in his manifesto, but because I had been witness to a discussion televised on BBC World News, where Senator McCain had been invited especially because of his opposition to the climate change theories. According to him, there was little proof of the climate change being a real phenomenon. Mr. Huckabee, too, was scary as a presidential hopeful, because he sought to negate Darwin’s theory of evolution! Hillary Clinton (just like her husband Bill) was just about the most manipulative and power-hungry candidate of the lot (Her husband is one of the most characterless men around and I think she hung on to him only so that she could make use of him to further her own political career. Earlier, he didn’t dump her because she was an asset to his political career, it appears to me.).
My cousin supported Hillary, because, according to her, Hillary had the requisite ‘experience’. She would support Obama for governor or even vice-president, but not for president. I would not count Hillary’s experience as first-lady as ‘experience’ and if Bill Clinton made all decisions related to governance in consultation with her, then he should be prosecuted under the relevant laws for endangering state-secrets!
I wonder if she supported Hillary because she belongs to the same demographic i.e. a highly successful working professional and a woman in the same age-bracket as Hillary (My cousin is only 10 years younger than my mother.). I did not dare suggest that to her, however, or else she would’ve tweaked my ears despite my turban (She’s the closest thing to a sister that I have.)!
As to who won the nomination from amongst the democrats is now history. I would say that Obama stands a really strong chance at victory in the presidential elections as well. He has that elusive quality, above all, which McCain does not seem to have as much of i.e. charisma. :)
BTW, I know of the kind of discrimination that you mention, because I’ve faced instances similar to the one that occured with your cousin, rather regularly, for as long as I can recall, because of my religious faith and its visible symbols i.e. my turban and, later, beard as well.
P.S.: The photo is very nice this time as well. Keep up the good work! :)
SS: Oh I so see where you’re coming from with that Hillary thing. I see her exactly the same. Power hungry and manipulative. The way she clung on to the primaries like a school girl does to her favorite dresses. She just had to win! Even during Democratic convention, she didn’t support Obama … she supported Not-Mccain!!! Ah bitter bitter woman. I sincerely hope her woman supporters don’t go join the Palin Camp now. That would be the ultimate blow to their intellect.
I is glad u liked the fotus!! :)))
I cannot vote but am following everything so closely. I want Obama to win. He keeps impressing me, him telling the media” keep the kids and private life out of politics ” that was in reference to Palin’s daughter.
Cannot wait to find out …
Yeah, S, at least he has a sane head on his shoulders. He didn’t involve himself in the negative low rung comments that we saw Republicans indulging themselves in today at their convention.
P.P.S.: I also strongly agree with Obama’s contention that the US should agree to talks with any one, including Libya and Iran, without any pre-conditions whatsoever.
He did make a statement against outsourcing of work to countries like India, recently, and proposed measures like withdrawal of tax-breaks to companies that out-source, but I don’t begrudge him that since even I would’ve put the interests of the citizens of my country above those of others, in such a situation. It is besides the fact, however, that such measures are unlikely to make too much of a dent, since out-sourced work would still remain cost-competitive and he is probably aware of that.
SS: and that’s the reason Desis out here won’t vote for him either. :) and talking of his contention of talking to other nations, Republicans took that up in their convention and turned it around to say, “We need a leader who will not apologize for our great nation” … uh huh.
I don’t know too much about American politics except what I read in the papers. I do not know the American public’s leanings. But there are tell tale signs everywhere of the double standards that racism in USA reeks of. It’s disappointing to know that the developed countries continue to perpetuate discriminatory practices on the basis of colour and creed.
D: ‘double standards’ is the key phrase here, yes!
Ahhh!!! American public smart??? Thats got to be a joke Roop! How else do you explain George Bush as the president?
hehe, Novs, goin by that logic, we’d soon be saying … how else do you explain John McCain as the president ? ;)
NOVA takes the cake-Despite all the discussions, counter discussions, arguments and counter-arguments.
I’m hungry for cake too though, Mampi. Pliss to get it back for me?
Well, there is ALOT of RACISM out here in the World today.. and ppl alway’s say there NOT.. But, I have came across it and it’s a DAMN shame that ppl nowaday’s feel this way.. But I do think RACISM WILL play a HUGE role into it.. Being Black or White and a Woman on the other party… I don’t think this world is ready for a African American person yet.. I say were ALL the same inide NO matter the color, and the World is NOT ready for a Woman President yet either.. This World I REALLY hate to say it is a Man’s World.. And us Women are trying to pull ourselfs out and up too show these men what were made of…. But, you know what! I RESPECT Barack Obama for what he said ” Keep the kid’s out of it”.. that right there say’s ALOT about Obama!! til l8er
yep, WM, the man’s got character!!! more than what Republicans keep hawking about.
Awwww thank u!! This one is good too.I think a top view would have been better.
wont comment much on US politics as I dont follow it. As for the 10 yr old who passed a racist comment, I strongly believe kids learn such stuff from what they see at home, the attitudes of their parents affects kids’ behavioral pattern. And we Indians are not far behind in practicing discrimination against color.
http://opinionsandexpressions.wordpress.com/2008/06/21/lost-love-and-fair-skin/
Reemz: dhatt oye. this fotu got an average of 6/7 on photo.net ( a place for professional photographers) :P and it was dedicated to you and all … dhatt dhatt and dhatt! triple dhatt! hehe
Thanks for your detailed response.
“Racism is in fact not a complex issue at all. It is simple. As simple as .. treat everyone the same as you would treat someone the same color as you.”
Of course it’s a complex issue dear. I wish it was as simple as you say that treat everyone the same as you would treat someone from same color..
It’s not humanly possible to behave in the same manner with everybody in front of you..your conscious mind might tell you that, irrespective of his/her color, gender etc, be fair with person in front of you but your unconscious/subconscious mind plus natural bodily responses act more on the basis of your opinions formed over the years about that person’s community and it’s known history/stereotypes , your own personal experiences with people of similar background and that particular situation..
You cant hope it to be that black and white..the best one can do is to be as open minded as possible…and things change with societies becoming more tolerant over time due to many external and internal factors , but it wont happen overnight.
“As far as I understand, Obama surely has better policies in terms of economy in comparison to McCain undoubtedly … but of course, we can vary on that …. :) ”
Neither am I an expert on economy..but one thing is becoming pretty clear that his intended policies are tending too much towards socialism which , in many experts opinion, are not the best for the situation in which US economy currently is..
lallupallu: out of Obama and McCain, I’d take Obama’s suggestions any day. He is far more practical than McCain is … atleast when talking of his policies …. here’s a read:
http://www.tnr.com/politics/story.html?id=4d40a39e-8f57-4054-bd99-94bc9d19be1a
and i like what this guy says:
http://economistsview.typepad.com/economistsview/2008/08/obamas-views-on.html
“Finally, I should also say that I was impressed by what I heard from Obama in terms of his knowledge of economics. He has taken the time to learn about the topic and he has intelligent things to say about it. Better yet, I agree with most of what he says. The contrast to McCain, who doesn’t seem the least bit interested in learning about economics and prefers instead to rely on the Phil Gramms in his party to tell him what his positions ought to be, was very clear.”
I think people forget all are immigrants and where they came once upon a time. My friend went for a driving test and it was the same centre and same white lady who made her fail no matter how good she did. What can you say when there is a word called superior being misused even in todays hi tech world. Shame for humans to discriminate and again who try to smile.
It’s a shame indeed, Pria.
@ Roop
Prerna already mentioned Guess Who’s Coming To Dinner, a great film with Sidney Poitier as the black male lead. The moral of the story? When push comes to shove and when our children bring home someone, our ideals are seriously tested. Poitier’s girlfriend’s father is a liberal publisher but the turmoil in their family, when she brings him over, is amazing. The black cook tells Poitier off for rising above his station; the white parents agonise silently and in the end, Poitier’s parents object to the whiteness of the girl. Racism is nobody’s prerogative but yes, it is in general true that while racist comments made to black and brown and yellow people are noticed, reverse racism goes un-noticed with terms like ‘white trash’ perfectly acceptable coming from white as well as non-white mouths.
As for your election, well you have 4 fairly flawed and imperfect people in the fray. Screwed whichever the Americans vote is my cynical view on the melee.
Shefaly: I agree with you on all counts. However, it’s just a personal bias that, given the flaws, I still feel that obama is better than the other in regards that he atleast has the ability to form a logically coherent sentence. Whether it is an asset useful in governing a country or not, that’s a criteria apparently not necessary for American elections anyway. ;)
@ Roop
Considering a good 2/3 of Americans don’t have passports, Sarah Palin, who got hers in 2007 is far more representative ;-)
S: hahaha and oh … plus she has EXECUTIVE experience, you see. Really, the presidential ticket shouldn’t read McCain|Palin … it should be the reverse … Palin|McCain :pp
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